In today's society everyone is obsessed with knowing what others are doing and where they are. For example, the Kardashians are rich becuase everyone is obsessed with their life, so much so they have a TV show. Also, let's not forget the Find My Friends app. I would much rather influence the world than be fixated on what everyone else is doing. If you aren't working to achieve your own dreams, then someone else is just going to hire you to achieve theirs. I don't want that. I recently came home from college and ran into an acquaintance from high school at the store. We were catching up, and she knew all these things about my life, just from my Instagram account. I had not talked to this person in over a year and it made me realize, social media makes your life everyone's business. I would love to talk with a friend and show them photos and tell them stories, but I do not want that happening from social media. I want to experience the personal interaction and bond with that person. Social media takes that away.
Another thing you need to realize is that social media only shows the positive and best parts of a person's life. I am sure my relationship looks picture perfect on Instagram, I spent time coming up with cute puns for each photo I posted. Just like any relationship, we have our fights and sometimes it gets ugly. You do not see that on my squares of Instagram. Generally, I am a pretty optimistic and joyful person, like my social media displays. However I do have severe anxiety and ADD that I struggle with daily; very few people know this. Humans put the things they're proud of on display for everyone to see; not the bad ones. Why would you want to highlight the negatives of you life? Social media creates an illusion. I am just as guilty of doing this as anyone else. I do not want people to think I have my life together, and I do not want to put that image out there for younger girls. Hopefully, my posts like these will help fight the "picture perfect" fantasy.
With reality being hidden, I have recently been struggling with the sin of comparison. I will see photos on Instagram, and compare my body or relationship to other people, and that is only hurting me. The popular page on Instagram is chalk-full of these images becuase that's what teenage girls fantasize about. Comparison is the ultimate thief of joy. Everyone was created for something different and has a different story, so you can never compare yourself to someone else. Just like I don't want to compare myself to others, I also don't want people comparing themselves to me. I have a separate piece that I wrote on comparison, and I am still debating on posting it.
I would start and end my day with checking social media, mainly Instagram and Snapchat. That is definitely not something I want. My goal is to wake up each morning and instantly go into prayer, a much better and rewarding use of time. Whenever I got bored or procrastinated, I would just start scrolling through Instagram, reply to my snapchats, look at snapchat stories, and now Instagram has even added a stories feature. I felt like I had to finish scrolling through my Instagram feed and keep my streaks on snapchat before I went to bed. There are so many people that have fallen into this routine of knowing what is going on in everyone else's lives, and I want out.
Now, social media is great for businesses. Businesses have the opportunity to have their photos intertwined with photos from their customers' personal lives. People are getting advertisements thrown at them, and they don't even realize it. Mark Zuckerberg is a genius, really. Recently, I have been trying to grow my social media through what other blogs recommend, but I've gotten nowhere. I am taking a new approach and posting what I want to post. Despite everything I have said, social media gives me a job and a platform to do what I love. I have been blinded by this cycle and happily using social media since 8th grade, that's 6 years. I am glad that people enjoy social media, and I hope they shall keep doing whatever floats their boats! This is how social media has affected my life, and what I have chosen to do about it.
This started as a personal entry in my journal, but I do have a lot of strong thoughts, and this could help others struggling with the same things I was. God has showed me that my struggles can be a good thing, and it's better to share my life lessons with everyone. Not only am I bettering myself, but hopefully someone else can benefit from my advice. Humans go through phases throughout their entire lifetime. I hope social media is just another phase. I know that this post was heavy, but I hope it helped someone in a positive way.